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ST. PETERSBURG, FL - It was all khakis and blazers and notepads inside the bayfront Hilton on Friday. hey gathered for a conference. You wouldn't guess what. The Business of Sex. "I don't think anyone would know," said Eric Buhi, an assistant professor at the University of South Florida. "Maybe if they got on the elevator and started talking to someone about it." Members from the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality held a regional gathering of about 80 professors, therapists, nurses, historians — even an Episcopal priest. Everyone had one thing in common — a belief in scientific research of sexuality. The SSSS was founded in 1957 on those principles and now has more than 1,000 members. The conference continues today and Sunday. Some session titles from Friday: Freeing the Sexy Beast: The effect of religiosity on arousal. How swingers find other swingers: The commercialization of the swinging lifestyle. Consequences of casual online sexual activities on committed relationships. They weren't meant to titillate, but to educate. In fact, in most sessions, you'd hear things like "qualitative question," and "homogeneity of variance" and "hierarchical regression analyses." "Our conference is very scientific," said Buhi, a conference organizer. "That's what we focus on." One presenter discussed religion and arousal. He put electrical monitors on people of different faiths and showed them images such as Victoria's Secret model Adriana Lima. Another presenter talked about our "sexual script" — you know, in middle school when it's all first base, second base, third base. Posters displayed around the conference discussed abstinence-only education and the notion of "gaydar." Mons Venus owner Joe Redner, First Amendment attorney Luke Lirot and University of Central Florida professor Randy Fisher spoke on a panel about the history of nude dancing in Tampa. Redner recapped his colorful history. He admitted that he's not actually gay — a coy assertion he made when he sued Hillsborough County for banning sponsorship of gay pride events in 2005. He compared policies against homosexuals to Nazi Germany.
Not Okay (includes but not limited to)
polyamory (sex with more than one person, such as threesomes). Why? 1 Corinthians 7:2
premarital sex. Why? Hebrews 13:4.
adultery (cheating on your spouse). Why? 1 Corinthians 6:9-10.
bi or homosexual activities. Why? 1 Corinthians 6:9-10.
bestiality. Why? It's illegal! And, Leviticus 20:15.
looking at pornographic texts or pictures. Why? Matthew 5:28
doing something your Dom tells you to that you know is illegal, immoral, or unbiblical. Why? Galations 1:10
anything not consensual. Why? It's illegal! Note to self: don't go to jail for rape.
Okay (includes but not limited to)
women being Doms and men being Subs
bondage, tying up, handcuffs, etc.
hitting, spanking, paddling, whipping, etc.
emotional humiliation (*if* the person wants it)
rape fantasies (about your partner)
using kinky sex toys
anal play for men or women (it's not "gay" if you're not doing it with a member of the same sex)
"human bestiality" (dressing up as puppy, horse, or other animal)
I think it is obvious that I did not, nor can I, list everything that is biblical and nonbiblical in BDSM, because BDSM is only limited your imagination. But many BDSM sites seem to assume that your Dom can order you to have sex with other people, have a bi or gay sex scene, have sex in front of other people, allow Masters or Mistresses to have multiple partners besides you, or participate in a threesome. Don't do anything that puts you at odds with God! If you have other questions, contact us or look it up.
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Inspired by the zodiac sign thread in the Dominant's Dungeon,
I want 
DOMINANT ARIES
Aries is a naturally dominant sign, in many ways. The aries tends to be
hard-headed and spirited, and is dissatisfied when things are not done his way. He will hold his slave to high personal standards, and will demand things be done to his liking above all else. He can be confrontational and protective, and is intensely passionate, so his slave will be well-looked after.SUBMISSIVE ARIES
Most people know that gemini and pisces are dual signs (as are many others), but few know that aries is as well. Aries is the ram, but also the sheep. Submissive aries will retain the fire and passion of the dominant, but he will shy from confrontation, and serve obediently. Nevertheless, this slave epitomizes the truism that bondage is really all about the bottom, because without attention and devotion, the aries slave will become easily upset and rebellious.
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- Location:crazy house
- Mood:busy
- Music:noise
One thing you need to know before you get started is that you’re dealing with a very small segment of the populace. I don’t have any hard statistics on the subject, but I’m guessing that people who actually identify themselves as a member of the BDSM community are as low as 5 or 10 percent of the public. That means simply that as hard as it is to just find someone in general, it’s exceptionally hard to find a good match if you’re looking for a BDSM partner.
What you’re looking for within the BDSM community will make a big difference too. Men who are actively involved in BDSM far outweigh the number of women. That’s good news if you’re looking for a man, but if you’re looking for a woman, your search just got tougher. And if you’re a submissive man (tons of those) looking for a dominant woman (very very few of those), then you’ve really got a large mountain to climb. No matter what you’re looking for, the more you get out there, the better chance that you’ll find someone.
There are three decent ways to meet the partner of your dreams – BDSM Email Groups, BDSM Personals, and BDSM Organizations. The best method would be to utilize all of these avenues.
I’ll talk more about these in the next part of my article.
- Location:refrigerator
- Mood:
cold - Music:Vanessa May
well, as much as it amused me to read this thread, it also kind of reminded me of my fun times while a session, or attempting to have one. And funnily there are many, and i think i should keep a sign with me that says ” Accident prone zone” most of the times.
but the funniest i would remember right now has to be about a story of a leather belt. that was with someone pretty new to me then and the lifestyle over all, and we were exploring the limits of each other and each other’s endurance/tolerance. It was like i was just back from my college, and in totally pissed off/ kinda sadistic/ dominant mood, and had gone to his place. At my place i would usually have a lot of toys handy to use, but at his room, it was hard to find one. so i decided to go with a leather belt of his, thought it would make a nice thing to lash with, once folded and held by the buckle and the end of it together. The leather was heavy, and belt was pretty sturdy, so the minute i had it in my hand, my sadistic brain was almost jumping with joy. so here we were, i had him bent over on the bed standing up with ass sticking in air, i was standing behind him deciding the right spot to stand and use the belt to lash. he was at his nervous best, probably cause of my innovative mind and his submissive state had done a double effect, and i was making it even worse, scaring him off with my talk, telling him why he shouldn’t move and let me miss my target, cause if i miss, it might be really damaging.
oh well, almost there, reaching the headspace my self, i held the belt with the buckle tight, and jerked it back in a swift motion to lash it horizontally on his cheeks. magically, the belt disappears right then. he has his eyes clenched shut expecting the pain, and dreading the seconds that are passing without anything happening to him. I, on the other hand, am absolutely wondering whatever happened to the belt. after a moment, I break into a laughter, sitting on the bed beside him, and him looking at me with the expression which almost implied that i had certainly lost it completely.
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- Location:astral
- Mood:
bouncy - Music:Armin van Buuren, Episode 301 (24-05-2007)
Time is sadness, Time is joy.
If you need to learn to live
look back and see:
mistakes and successes,
dreams and nightmares.
Time is nostalgia.
Time doesn't return.
